5 Thing's To Stop Doing Before You Turn 25

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Earlier this year I wanted to make a point to try to be the best version of myself. I had really bad postpartum depression after I had Harper and it was a huge eye opener for me. I decided to make a huge life change, not because of the postpartum depression, because I know that can happen to anyone. But because I felt I was in a negative and self destructive cycle. I was always SO negative, I would get super overwhelmed very easily, and hated myself. I decided to make some of these changes in February, but some I made recently. These are some thing’s I truly believe you should stop doing before you turn 25, or just when you just want to better your life.

  1. Negative Self Talk - This is something that I made a point to do after I had Harper. I heard basically all the adults in my life call themselves “fat” or “ugly” growing up and I thought it was normal to hate yourself. I remember going to the movie theater to see New York Minute with my faves, Mary Kate and Ashley, and literally feeling so disgusted with myself for eating popcorn I wanted to cry, I was only 10 years old. The fact that that is what I was so concerned about my weight at 10 years old is so ridiculous. So thats why when Harper came along, and Owen started understanding what I was saying, I made the choice to not let them hear me every cut down myself, or anybody else. That turned into me feeling way better and more confident. It took a while since I never knew how to be kind to myself, but it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. SO, stop the negative stop talk right now.

  2. Being Scared Of People Judging you - I’m going to be totally honest with you, no matter what you do someone is probably judging you. Maybe they are jealous, maybe they aren’t. But why the fuck does it matter. It’s your life. Do what makes you happy. I put of starting my blog for 2 years out of fear. When I started telling my friends about it, most people thought it was ridiculous. Lots of people probably made fun of it behind my back, but I truly could care less. It makes me happy, so that’s what matters. The second you stop letting your fear of people’s judgment dictate your life, you will be way happier, I promise you that.

  3. Not Owning Up To Shit - I feel this one is something that will just come with getting older, or maybe you are one of those self aware people who can own up to shit and don’t need this. I was not one of those people. I used to literally blame everyone else for my problems. If I messed up, or was being a bitch, I would never own up to it or would blame the person I hurt. I’m sure Dalton would still say that I need some work on this, and he’s probably right. But thankfully now that I am more aware of it, I notice it way more.Part of being an adult is apologizing for shit, it sucks but better to own up to it than to be a person who blames the world for their shit storm of a life. Trust me, I’ve been there.

  4. Keeping People Around Who Aren’t There For You - I feel like everyone has a few of those people in your life who you are always there for, but when you need them they are no where to be found. This was something that really stood out for me earlier this year when I was going through my postpartum depression. I had people in my life who I would drop anything for if they needed, but when I was in desperate need for them, they weren’t there. Keep people close to you who you can count on no matter, who will build you up and not cause you pain. I heard this somewhere, I truly don’t know where, or if it’s even true, but the 3 people you spend the most time around is who you are the most like. So make sure the 3 people you are around the most are great and people you can depend on. Most people that come into your life won’t be there forever and that’s okay.

  5. Not Having a Hobby - Having a hobby is so important. I used to just watch all the netflix and think that that was a totally acceptable way to spend my life. Don’t get me wrong, I do watch way to much TV. Probably more than the average person, but I do have hobbies. My only hobby used to be reading.. wait.. is that a hobby? I don’t know, BRB googling it… Phew it is a hobby. Thank god. Last year I started my blog too, and with that I also started taking pictures. Now I can watch T.V and not feel like as bad about it because I am taking pictures/writing blog posts/ or editing pictures at the same time. Basically, have something just for you, that you love and that makes you happy.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading my rambling words of sort of wisdom. Since I turned 25 I for some reason feel way wiser. May not be true.. but please just let me believe that I am. Hope you all have a wonderful day!

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